As a thirty five year old woman I must admit I enjoy being childless. When I was in my twenties all I ever heard from people is “ you need to have some kids, at least one”, and it would piss me off. I wanted to fire back with “who the hell are you to tell me what to do with my body?”. Women are consistently reminded that their place in life is to be a wife and a mother. I think not. Society never does not that to men. They never ask them when are they going to be a husband and father. Think about it, how often have you heard that in your life?
Any way moving right along to my discussion, every woman is not meant to a parent. I for one have never been excited about the idea of waking up in the middle of the night to a screaming child or having to make financial sacrifices. Speaking of financial sacrifices according to an article posted by the Huffington post it cost a total of $200,000 plus dollars to raise a child. That’s the cost of only one child, but when you start tagging on two, three and more it gets even more expensive which is another reason I did not want to have children.
To be a parent means to sacrifice. Sacrifice your time, your health and your money. God forbid if you are a single parent with a child, let alone a child with special needs. Some women are not meant to be mothers. Some of use have different callings in our life and that does not always mean being a mother.
Enjoying the benefits of traveling without having to find a babysitter, living a free life without being tied down is a great experience. To any young woman reading this, never allow older people to make you feel like you should rush your life to be a mother. That’s your life and your life only. You reserve the right to live how you want, they have lived their life now it’s your turn. You want to be able to say before you die “I did it may way”. Family are the worst influencers due to putting pressure on young women to tell them when are they going to have kids, when are they going to get married and I simply would respond “If you want children than you are more than welcome to have some on your own”. I find it very interesting no one ever ask men when are you going to become a father or a husband?
Actress Jennifer Aniston said it best in her recent Huffington Post article “The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing. We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child,” and I couldn’t agree more.
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